haha - carolyn's comment reminded me of something. (she said she's the type who finds it hard to forgive, the grudge holding type. Which is also like my hubby, maybe that's why I like her, opposites attract?)

Anyway, even though hubby is very masculine and macho in many ways, he's also the woman of our relationship. He's in the construction industry and drinks beer and hunts and carries pocket knives and has a whole workshop in the garage and loves big trucks and all this tough guy stuff right? But he's the one who holds grudges, who makes the plans for us, who I have to check in with to see if we can do something. Guys in the office here joke that their wives are the bosses ya know? Like they have to see what the boss says before going for a beer. Or they have to ask permission before buying golf clubs or whatever. We're the opposite. Hubby just buys shit and does shit. I ask permission (though he doesn't care anyway). He gets his way 90% of the time. He'll bring up arguments and grudges from years ago. I don't even remember exactly why we fought yesterday.

He gets it from his mother. Well his dad too. It is ridiculous how much we all turn into our parents. RIDICULOUS! My parents have never fought. They'll discuss things, but they realize nothing was ever a big enough deal for them to get upset about. My MIL has gone for a week without speaking to FIL, over something dumb like he's always working and late for supper. And worse than that, she complains to her kids about it and makes them take sides. I just don't understand gossip in a FAMILY.

I remember growing up and something being "not fair" and my brother got cake or a longer turn or whatever and mom being like "so? how does that even affect you? it's him, you still got yours." And I remember numerous times when my mom pointed out how getting even does nothing and is the most pitiful, mean thing you can do. Obviously MIL did not instill the same lessons in hubby. (OH, so I can blame HER! always looking for another tick against a MIL aren't we?)