Thursday, October 25, 2007

for those who don't get the urge to slut

If you guys are wondering why people want to dress slutty on halloween when you know it's slutty and trashy and both of those words are not happy words but bad words, I'll try to explain.

You are also probably the people who hate getting whistled at by construction workers, or honked at on the street. And are scared that men will grope you in a bar and follow you to your car so you carry pepper spray in your purse.

Not me.

I remember the 1 time in my life when somebody passed by and grabbed my butt at a dance. I might remember it forever. I was slightly embarrassed, and a teeny uncomfortable, but mostly pleased. It was like a stranger had seen me, and my butt, and thought it was hot enough for a grope.

If I get honked at on the street, I assume it's because I'm in the way, it's somebody else, or they're honking at losers today. I don't assume it was in the hey sexy lady way.

If I were to wear a sexy halloween costume (as I did in grade 11 when I was Ginger Spice when our volleyball team did a fundraising airband as the Spice Girls. And I looked good at the time, if heavily made up and trashy) I would feel self conscious and assume that people were thinking that I must think I look like hot stuff even though I am so obviously overweight and shouldn't be wearing that. Though now that I am not OBVIOUSLY overweight it might be different. dunno.

I just wish I were the girl who was so sick of guys giving her attention that it would drive me bonkers if another guy whistled at me. I wish I were the girl who guys tried to pick up in a bar. Hell, that guys asked to dance in a bar. I wish I were the one people were talking about how her boobs must be fake or she must have had lipo and exercise all the time to look like that. (but obviously I don't want to have surgery or exercise all the time).

I remember my mom telling me to be more careful and stay by her when shopping because as a cute blond haired blue eyed girl (how things change) I was just the kind that bad guys would try and kidnap. And I remember thinking, yeah right. They'd want the cute little girls.

So basically this all shows you how screwed up I am. Perhaps. But I don't think I'm alone on this.

I know some of it has to do with me getting together with hubby when I was 16. I had only ever kissed 2 boys before him. (yes I've only ever kissed 3 guys in my life. and 2 were before I could even drive) And then everyone we ever hung out with knew we were together so I didn't get hit on. And I didn't flirt with anybody so I never practiced or learned how to pick up boys and make them like me. I think this is all supposed to get out of your system when you're like 19-22 in college. But I was always with hubby so I never did. Not that I'm saying I want to hook up with other guys. I just want to know that other guys want to hook up with me, were it available.

Wow, another get to know Randi better episode. 2 in 1 day. Lucky you folks.

I think what I need is a girls weekend where we dress up sexy (not slutty, but almost ;) ) and go to the bar and just flirt and have drinks bought for us and get asked to dance and bat our eyelashes, but then go home in a cab together laughing at all the silly boys. So does anybody want to come to Saskatoon for a weekend and do this?

7 comments:

tash said...

If I'm ever in Saskatoon i'll give you a ring! Whoary girls nights are always fun!

I think wanted to get whistled etc at and not wanting it are a lot like wanting bigger boobs or smaller boobs or curly hair or straight hair - we all think the grass is greener on the other side . . .

ThickChick said...

That's what bachelorette parties are for! That way all the 'taken' ladies can get a few flirts in and have a good time, but go home to the man they love. Not a bad deal!

And by the by...In my experience, regardless of how much I weigh, if I'm feeling hot and sexy, people seem to take notice....I think people are attracted to an attitude, and if you're feeling it, most other people will see it and think you're hot too.. and if you're not feeling it, then rarely will anyone else...know what I mean?

CaRoLyN said...

I love getting whistled at or hit on at a bar! Sounds trashy but it's not. I like that attention. I think it's probably because I got together with my hubby a few months after I turned 19 and didn't really get to do the whole single and legal thing for very long. I did it for a summer and then settled in with hubby. But honestly I think that every woman likes to feel attractive and wants to know that men find them attractive. I think we all have that. For the most part though, whenever I have a girls night out with my girls and we all dres sup sexy and hot, I don't really do it so that I'll get hit on, I do it so that I feel hot and I can go out and dance all night with my girls. Sometimes it's not to just dress up and feel hot for your own sake. ya know?

CaRoLyN said...

PS

My halloween costumes is slightly trashy as well.

Angie All The Way said...

I totally get it. I rarely go to the bars anymore at all, but do on occasion when I visit my hometown and you can be guaranteed that there isn't a woman in that bar who doesn't want to be noticed and hit on, even if she's not interested. Then when it happens, the guys are never up to par, so it's creepy.

Wanting the attention is like a primal desire and it's healthy and especially since you've been with hubby for so long and never got to experience that. Wanting to go home to hubby makes it all harmless.

eurydice said...

i never dress slutty and my bf is always trying to get me to wear more revealing clothing. even when other guys hit on me, he's into it! very strange.

i used to hate being hit on but now that i've worked so hard to lose weight - i'm proud of the way i look and SHOULD be hit on! damn it!

Swizzlepop said...

I love the getting to know you posts. I love learning more about people and it makes other things make more sense.

I think the grass is always greener no matter what side you're on. I was the girl who always got hit on and whistled at and honked at and I hated it, until it stopped. Then I missed it. Now that I've lost most of the weight I'm that girl again and I hate it again but I also secretly like it now :).
Now you know me more too :P. If I ever find myself lost in Canada I will totally look you up!