Friday, April 25, 2008

Why don't I use my best resource?

You guys! This one is in particular for moms.
Ok you know how I'm baby obsessed lately? (Don't worry, we're still definately not trying until this fall, however...) I totally want a baby. First I really really want to be pregnant. i'm so excited for that. I know you're all rolling your eyes, like what does she know, looking forward to stretch marks and barfing. Whatever, I am. And then I'm pretty excited to have the baby. the first feeding, first bath etc. But I'm really really not looking forward to having a toddler and potty training. Or having a kid in school. Frankly I find kids older that 3 annoying. When I was visiting SIL and baby Sam in the hospital somebody else came to visit and brought a present which was clothes for a 5 year old. Very practical, since they don't get as many presents at that age and clothes are more expensive. However, it freaked me right out. I was all gooey about having a baby but then when I saw that I got sorta mad. Like they're already telling me how fast this baby is gonna grow up.

So basically my question is, do you eventually want the 5 year old? by the time your kid is 5, that's what you're wanting anyway? And when you get pregnant and have a baby, were you only wanting "a baby" and not a kid? Just my thoughts right now. Any insight is appreciated.

12 comments:

sherijung said...

You are so funny--of course you will love your baby at every age! You'll find new reasons to love every age. Some ages are better than others, I admit, but you will fall in love with your child as a person, and you'll love to see the world through new eyes. You'll love watching them learn new skills and interact with the world differently as they grow. Each new skill (sitting up, walking, talking, etc.) brings them a new way of interacting with you and their world.

The most amazing thing to realize very early on is how your baby is his/her own person, with an inborn temperament, likes and dislikes. As babies, my two boys even liked to be rocked differently, so what had worked for the first one didn't work for the second.

Just realize that it is all much harder than you can imagine, and much more wonderful too.

Shannon said...

i do agree with you. TOTALLY. I have a bit of baby fever too right now.

Fatinah said...

I have always found each stage of my daughter growing up more exciting than the last. She's 15 now.

Jen said...

I am the EXACT same way!! I want the baby and even the toddler and then I think "Wow, I have to teach someone how to exist?? how to make choices, etc" it's TERRIFYING!!! more scary than morning sickness and labor!!! I look forward to having the tummy and everything and know that it isn't just fat in there!!!

Kate said...

I don't have kids, well the real kind anyways, but I do have the four-legged kind. And I find with them its kinda funny, When Duke was a puppy he was so cute, and huggable, and playful...and now he's five. And you know what? Now I wouldn't trade him the age that he is for a puppy, sure they are cute...but god they are a pain in the butt! I think kids it's probably the same thing. I know my parents see screaming kids in church or something and just look at each other and say, god I'm glad we're past that!

Christy said...

My son is 16 months now and honestly - this age is WAY better than the baby stage! He has such a little personality now, he can talk, walk, he's his own little person. This first year was great, babies are cute and fun, but toddlers are awesome.

When i would freak out before I had kids (or when I was pregnant) my girlfriends would always tell me - you aren't going to give birth to a 4 year old, you're goign to ahve 4 years experience before they get to that age.

I kind of wish the next one would come out at 12 months old already ;)

ashley said...

I thought this question was too cute! I won't be a mom anytime soon, but I love reading what everyone has to say! I bet you will fall so in love with the baby and it will only grow from there... after all, some kids are "only a mother could love".. ya know? :)

MizFit said...

cue cheesy-music but EVERY AGE IS THE BEST AGE.

and Im mired in the terrible twos right now...

Angie All The Way said...

Yep the thought of motherhood excites me and scares the shit out of me all at the same time. I worry about being able to "handle" the toddler getting into things and being able to answer the questions they ask etc. I'm banking on the fact that the innate motherhood pixie dust will just make it all "work" lol

katieo said...

Sherijung nailed it.

You may not like 3, 4, or 5 year olds, but trust me, when yours get to be that age, you'll think they'll break the mold cause they're so freakin awesome. Right now, you are just seeing baby. Not the little soul that will be inhabiting that little cute soft round body. The person that's in there is tied to you forever. Trust me, you look at your own kids differently.

I actually REALLY don't enjoy the newborn stage. Well, no, I do love the newborn stage...of other people's babies. But when it's me, I don't sleep, I'm fat, I'm tired ALL. THE. TIME. I've got hurt boobs from breastfeeding. I'm not typically a happy camper. But from about 6 months on...that's when things start to get really fun. I think my favorite time so far is actually the window between 3 and 5. They can feed themselves, put shoes on, etc. and say the most hilarious things. Seeing the world through the eyes of a 4 year old is like nothing else.

THank goodness we get them so small and helpless though. We love them to bits and get lots of time to figure out each stage. One day, one hour at a time. (My 18 month old just came out of a screeching stage. Not fun.)

Just remember too, my oldest is 6 and he can now do pushups with me and ride his bike while I run. It's REALLY fun.

katieo said...

Just realize that it is all much harder than you can imagine, and much more wonderful too.

YES!!

Jenn said...

I am having the same exact thoughts!!! I really want a baby, want the experience of being pregnant, but then I think about having a 4 or 5 year old, and I'm like, nah!
I can't imagine not loving your child when they grow up though just because they aren't a baby. I know you love them forever - just think about how much your parents love you. It didn't stop when you got out of diapers. :)